If your girlfriend dumped you and told you that she wants to break up, you may feel lost. A part of you wants to call her and beg her to come back. But the other part of you is tired of fighting and she wants to change things forever. How do you start over with your girlfriend and make your relationship better than it was before the breakup? How to get your girlfriend back forever this time?

If the two of you are in the habit of breaking up and getting back together, then this pattern needs to stop or you may never be happy. Knowing that your girlfriend will threaten to break up with you over any little argument is hard. You are afraid to say what you think. Plus, it gives you more control over the relationship than you deserve. After all, relationships should be 50/50. Both of you should compromise to make each other happy. You shouldn’t have to do everything she wants just because your girlfriend threatens to break up with you. But how do you change things?

If your girlfriend dumped you and now you really want to get her back and do it differently this time, you need to start by changing your own patterns. You want to get her back fast, but the right way. That means she needs to meet you in the middle. You can’t call her and beg her to come back. You can’t call her and apologize for what happened. Not this time. Of course, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t apologize if you really did something wrong. Of course you should. But groveling, begging, pleading, and bargaining are completely different from a mature apology. A mature apology should be enough for any reasonable person to forgive you. And if you need any of the other things to get your girlfriend back, then you have to stop doing them. That is the only way the pattern will change.

So this time, if your girlfriend left you and you would normally crawl over to her and beg, borrow and steal to get her back, don’t. If you haven’t apologized, then call her once and apologize. So you need to leave her completely alone. One of the best things you can do is use the no contact rule. Go at least a week, if not two, without any contact with your girlfriend. This way, when you two talk, it has to be mutual. It works even better if you wait until she gets back to you. That way, the two of you can meet in the middle and make up, and it’s not just you doing all the work.