Space of the last frontier. In this case, it could also be the last nail in the coffin of your relationship.

A bride asking for ‘space’ is looking for something completely different. She could also use the phrase ‘time apart’ or something like ‘slow down for a while’. But no matter how you say it, what your girl says, and what she really means, are two completely different things.

What does it mean when your girlfriend wants time apart

A break is pretty much cut and dry. You stop dating, you stop seeing each other, you stop sleeping together. They both leave, on different paths, in different directions, to complete the rest of their lives without each other.

A “break” is much, much different. Every time your girlfriend asks for space, a break or free time, she is actually asking for two things:

1) She wants the freedom to do whatever she wants, without answering you anymore. And yes, this includes the possibility of her dating other people.

2) While she’s doing this? Your girlfriend wants you to wait for her like a complete fool.

Yes it’s correct. You’re supposed to sit like a good kid until SHE decides when she’s had enough space. You can’t ask when the break will end, because she “doesn’t know.” Every time you call or text her, she’ll tell you that you’re bothering her and not giving her the “space” she asked for.

With the passage of time you will wonder where it is. You will be dying to know the status of your relationship. are you broken Are you dating someone else? You’ll feel hopeless and helpless, an emotional wreck who can’t even get a status update on whether or not he has a girlfriend.

THIS is what you have to expect when you agree to give your girlfriend ‘space’.

What to do when he tells you he wants time apart

If your girlfriend wants to take a break from your relationship, you should call her bluff. It’s that simple, it’s that simple. Anything else she can do, like agreeing to throw her relationship into a giant volcano of limbo, will only push her further apart… or permanently push her away, depending on how things go.

Does she want time apart? Tell her that she can have ALL the time in the world, because you’re not waiting.

She wants space? Give her so much space that your girlfriend starts getting checks from NASA.

It’s a simple counter-rejection technique that immediately brings your girlfriend to a halt and blows up any silly plans she may have had. She sits you down to tell you that things are too stifling for her and she wants some breathing space (or whatever) and you just say this:

“Yeah, no, no, thanks. I don’t DO the whole ‘separate time’ thing. Either you date me or you don’t. Those are your options. Let’s give ourselves a fucking break.”

As your girl stands there trying to pick her jaw off the floor, tell her to take it easy and go. BOOM! You just destroyed anything and everything she wanted to do during the ‘break’, because from this point on, you made it a break up.

Now you are thinking “this is not what I want”. I understand. But you know what? It’s not what SHE wants either. That’s why doing it this way is such an effective tactic. Instead of being on the defensive, you’ve gone completely on the offensive. Instead of being subservient to what she wanted, you just reached out and took all the power.

Why turning down ‘rest’ always works

Think of it this way: if your girlfriend wanted to break up with you, she would have. She would have sat you down and she would have told you that it was all over, totally and completely, and then she would be gone.

But that’s not what happened. It’s not what she did. Instead of breaking up with you, she told you that she wanted “time apart.” This is completely different, and here’s why:

When your girlfriend asks you for space it’s because she’s not sure she wants to break up with you. Essentially, you are giving the breakup a test run. What if she misses you and realizes that she still loves you? All she has to do is tell you that the ‘time apart’ is over. You run back and everything goes on as usual.

However, if during the trial break she decides she doesn’t really need you. you’re gone. The relationship is over, and the worst part of it all: It may not even tell you when it’s over.. Your girlfriend could start seeing another guy or dating someone else, and instead of having the awkward “hey, we’re done” conversation, she’ll leave you hanging in relationship limbo wondering when and if she ever will. will. She is going to return

Fuck all that.

Refusing ‘separation time’ works because you are showing STRENGTH. You’re not going to lie down and let him run you over. You’re demonstrating a backbone and telling him “Hell no, I’m not going to sit around like a fool while you make all the decisions regarding our relationship.” You’d rather lose everything than give him 100% of the power.

So what does your girlfriend see? She sees a boy who is essentially independent. A guy who might not even need her, at least as much as she thought you needed her. Suddenly, your happiness doesn’t depend entirely on her. Her stock just went up. You have just become so much more desirable as a boyfriend and as a MAN.

What to do if you are already on a break

Now if you’re already on a break? You are in trouble. Fortunately, though, you’re not completely lost yet.

If your girlfriend has already put your romance on ice, there are instant reversal techniques you can use to turn things around right away. Some of these require you to contact your ex, so when you do, make sure you know when to do it and exactly what to say when you call.