Do you find it difficult to get him to love you? Do you ever wonder what you’re doing wrong? Have you given up on finding that perfect man? Well, don’t give up yet. There are still some things you may not know about love, men, and relationships.

Some men find it hard to tell the difference between true love and animal lust. They see a pretty face, a sexy body and think they’re in love when in reality their sex drive has just taken over. Once that sex drive has been satisfied, they move on. So how can you jump over that sexual hurdle and get to the real heart of the matter?

Well, if love automatically followed lust, it would be a simple matter of donning that sexy dress, pouting her pouty lips, and bagging both heart and libido in a slender sway of her hips. But unfortunately, the heart is a bit more complicated than that.

So start by discovering their weak points. Once you’ve sparked that initial attraction, be receptive as he opens up and gives you a taste of the man he is. Be supportive, interested, and curious about what gets him up in the morning, what makes him happy, and what gets on his nerves. Beware of excessive critical judgments or negative comments. While you may have a strong opinion about a particular part of his life, don’t attack or condemn it. While you may just be trying to show off your intellect or strength, chances are you’re just isolating him. If he feels like you’ll criticize him every time he admits a flaw or weakness, he’ll leave the date feeling diminished and frustrated.

Slow down, slow down, and slow down. Just because you’ve set a particular schedule for meeting, dating, and marrying the man of your dreams doesn’t mean he’s working with the same mindset. Give him time, give him space, and give him a chance to realize for himself how wonderful his life is when you’re around. Of course, this can be difficult when you really want to be with him all the time and all your thoughts revolve around him, but the more strongly you pull him in, the more you end up pushing him away. All the “where is this relationship going?” is a difficult question to pose. Not only do you push him, but you may not be happy if he gives you an honest answer.

So back off a bit and let love take care of itself. If you play it right, getting him to love you will be easy and he will be the one to push for a more serious relationship.