The grass is rarely greener on the other side

Let’s face it: Are you happy with your life or do you wish things were different? For example, how would a life coach rate you? Would they make adjustments here and there or give you a thumbs up? Sometimes we allow our negative emotions to get in the way of what life is trying to tell us. We might see our friends or those on Instagram living wonderful lives and wish ours were the same. Although we do not look at things objectively, but judge them only by appearances. No matter how successful, rich, or happy you are, there will always be challenges, and no one is immune from them. Does it make sense that wishing for a better life doesn’t make it come true? It requires sorting out what’s not working and consistently addressing those details.

It’s no secret, everyone wants a better life. But as you may or may not know, the grass is rarely greener on the other side. It may seem that way, but as soon as you attract better circumstances, there will be new problems and challenges to overcome. For example, those who are single may lament their loneliness and want to have an intimate relationship to make up for this. However, some get discouraged when the relationship doesn’t meet their expectations and they want to be single again. The same goes for money. When we are struggling financially, we want an endless supply of money, however, if we are financially successful, other challenges arise. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not suggesting that we shouldn’t be financially free. However, we must develop the right mindset so that regardless of whether we are rich or poor, single or in a relationship, we will be happy regardless. How do you feel about that? Can you learn to be happy with your current circumstances knowing that your life is a work in progress?

Work through your problems

The key is to understand that life is a constantly evolving process. Sometimes we will experience hardship, pain, and struggle, while at other times we will experience joy, exhilaration, and success. Winston Churchill said it perfectly: “Success consists of going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” He knew that to be successful, we must not lose enthusiasm despite our difficulties. Challenges help us sharpen the saw of our character. While it may not be clear to us at the time, our pain and problems can help us become clear about how to live the life we ​​dream of. I have encountered many challenges throughout my life. There were times when I thought I was doomed to fail. It’s not that he didn’t want to succeed, although every time he tried, he failed miserably. I thought life was against me and compared myself to others who were having success. But those lessons contributed to my personal development. What you think is harmful may be the best for your personal growth. It is said: The obstacle is the path.

Does this make sense? Can you appreciate that what happens outside of you reflects what is happening inside of you? I am sure you have many questions in your mind. I invite you to write them in a journal, if you use it. If you don’t, that would be a good time to start because journaling is an effective way to look at the subject of your life. This is the first thing I recommend to new coaching clients when we work together. Keeping a journal is a powerful tool to become aware of our thoughts and overcome our difficulties. It requires looking at what isn’t working in your life and finding ways to overcome those challenges. You literally get better at working on solutions instead of falling into despair. Even if we like to compare ourselves with others, we realize that it is useless because evaluation is unproductive. We must become our own motivator, counselor if we wish to conquer our challenges.

As we work through our problems, life won’t seem as bleak as we think. It only seems so because we get stuck in a certain way of life and can’t find our way out. We are like mice in a laboratory experiment, spinning in an endless wheel with no way out. The keys are in your hand and lie in your ability to find solutions to your problems. With this in mind, I’d like you to take a pressing problem in your life and write down five to eight solutions. They might not look impressive at first glance, however please revisit them in the next few days and narrow them down to three. When you are satisfied, choose one and act accordingly. Note in your journal if it helps or requires more steps. It is when we stop wishing for a better life and accept what is given to us, that we appreciate that a better life has been staring us in the face all along.