Moving on from a past relationship hurts, but it doesn’t have to. Most people associate a breakup with failure or even let the fear of being alone get the best of them. There are several reasons why people really need to think about reconciling with their ex in order to really heal from the relationship. Below are two reasons:

every relationship is different

The first reason is that it is no secret that relationships are different. It is very important for people to realize that people come into their lives for two reasons: as a life lesson or as a life blessing. This is why people owe it to themselves to take some time and reflect on their past relationship to see the higher purpose of the relationship. This reflection is not intended to rekindle old emotional wounds, but simply to find out if the person brought life lessons, life blessings, or a combination of both. During this reflection, individuals should ask themselves the following question: What did this person in this relationship teach me about life and about myself? The answers that come from this question are good enough to reconcile with your Ex. This is when the need for a healing becomes apparent so that you can both move forward and continue to grow on your spiritual journey.

Forgiveness is not for the other person

The second reason is that people need to realize the importance of forgiveness. Forgiveness is one of those tough life lessons that one must master in order to move to the next level in their spiritual walk. When one seeks forgiveness, he must go privately to the other party that is involved. This doesn’t mean relaying what’s going on and how the conversation went, but rather focusing on making peace with the other person. Sometimes being face to face is not an option and that’s okay. One can offer forgiveness over the phone. The most important thing is that both parties agree and are sincere about being forgiven and offering forgiveness. Once this has been established, people need to go ahead and continue their healing process. It’s okay to set healthy boundaries if you want to continue to be friends with your ex.

Making peace with an ex can seem like a challenge, but it’s really about learning to mature emotionally and be at peace that the relationship is in a new state that may be the best for both of you. Getting a life lesson or a life blessing isn’t so bad after all!