The first thing to know about men and cheating is that they tend to be a little less forgiving than a woman might be in the same situation. You are going to have to go through a few more hurdles to get your husband back after cheating, but it will be worth it if you are truly committed to your marriage.

Before you make any move to get it back or win it over, you need to understand why you cheated. What do you feel you lack that you were looking for in the arms of another man? Until you’ve faced this and decided that you can verbalize that need at home or you can live without it, there’s no point in asking your husband for another chance. You’re just not ready yet.

The biggest problem is that you may not know the exact reason why you cheated. Here are some common reasons women have affairs. Most women who cheat find that there is an underlying reason. What is that reason? You feel unappreciated.

Men think that women are very complicated and some women work very hard to maintain this sense of mystery. But everyone wants one thing in the end. They want a man who makes them feel that what they do, think and say matters. They want to feel appreciated whether it’s cooking dinner, taking care of the house, or simply looking spectacular for a special evening or event.

If you don’t feel appreciated, you’ll have a hard time playing the role of a faithful companion. If you’ve already had an affair, what’s stopping you from having another one in the future? Did her husband of hers suddenly start showing the proper appreciation?

Sometimes knowing that you’ve found comfort in another man’s arms is all you need to make your husband notice you and appreciate you a little more. Sometimes this knowledge is going to be more than he can take. Usually he does one or the other of these things very quickly. If he has pushed him away, don’t give up hope just yet.

Now that you understand why you strayed, you can take the proper steps to ensure that you are faithful to the end in the future. His great concern at the moment is figuring out how to get it back. It may seem easier said than done, but it is not impossible.

Start with the basics. Apologize. Acknowledge blame and accept responsibility. Don’t blame your husband’s feet. Apologize. Then ask to start over. You don’t want to move on. You won’t want to leave this behind. You want to use this as an opportunity to start fresh with a clean slate for both of you.