My closest friend had a German Shepherd, the friendliest dog you would ever hope to meet. When I first arrived at his house, Biscuit was already many years old, but still alert. My friend was worried about his health and his age, and he hoped that he would get through his daughter’s college year. Unfortunately, that didn’t turn out to be the case, as Biscuit had gotten too sick and needed to be euthanized. My friend was the only one with her at the time because he didn’t want the rest of her family to get too upset.

Seeing my friend cry over the loss of his friend inspired me to want to do something to help, but I had to admit that at the time I didn’t know how to respond to his complaint. While my friend appreciated the gesture, I wanted to do more, so I hope this article helps people who have lost a loved dog or cat come to terms with their losses. Those who haven’t had pets in their home may not understand the need to grieve, but when a dog, cat, bird, or other pet becomes part of the family, it can be difficult to accept.

The first thing to remember: It’s okay to cry. It is okay to feel sad, angry, and emotional about this loss. You may deal with guilt and denial and wonder if you could have done something to help your pet, and if you feel the need to vent or talk to someone, you should.

If you can find a counselor who deals with this type of loss, make an appointment, or you can talk to your vet to see what they recommend. Well-meaning friends who haven’t had pets may suggest you get another dog or cat to help you cope, and your first instinct may be to get angry. Your pet was unique, with a personality and charm that endeared you to him. You may consider another pet in the future, but you know that the one you lost can never be replaced.

If someone suggests this to you, simply say thanks and nothing more. You may feel inclined to scold friends and family, but this will do nothing to resolve your complaint. If people persist, you can say that you don’t want to make plans right now.

Ultimately, the only thing that will help you get over the loss of your pet is time. He will remember the good times he had with his four-legged or winged friend, and wake up each day knowing that he is grateful for the time he had. Take care of yourself.