6-Step Parent’s Guide to Solving Potty Training Problems
Potty training is one of the most important things parents have to do for their children. Most children have no difficulty in potty training. Normally, children can develop good toilet habits between 18 months and 3 years.
Unfortunately, some children do not have the same physical, intellectual and psychological preparation to learn to go to the bathroom at an early age.
Here are some signs of good potty skills:
1. Physical availability
Being able to show the urge to urinate or defecate through your facial expression or posture.
Stay dry for at least 2 hours.
Regular bowel movements
2. Intellectual availability
Understand the commands and instructions
Cooperate during training
3. Psychological preparation
Recognize the discomfort caused by dirty diapers
Ask for diapers to be changed
Recognize a full bladder
Recognize between the need to urinate or defecate
Here are some tips on how to quickly potty train your child:
1. Don’t force or push your child too fast. Your child is just beginning to develop habits in life, so take the process in stride. In the beginning, it is normal for you to experience accidents or occasional relapses, so do not punish mistakes too much. Go at a pace that is right for your child. If you start potty training before your child is ready and if you push him to go at a fast pace, this will usually build resistance.
2. Counter. Sometimes if kids have a bad toilet training experience, you should be able to handle resistance well. If you scold and punish resistance, negative reinforcement won’t do you any good. So if you meet resistance, determine the problem and be the one to change your method. This is easier to do than trying to force your child, which can further aggravate their negative perception of potty training.
3. Establish rewards and use positive reinforcement. Be sure to praise and reward your child for always doing the right thing. This includes using the potty, asking to use it, using it correctly, etc. You can use small rewards like toys or candy.
4. Get her involved in diapering. Don’t treat your child like a doll when changing diapers. Tell him what’s going on and even ask him for help. Have him toss his dirty diapers in the trash and let him choose new underwear. Teach him to put it on.
5. Physical punishment will get you nowhere. Don’t use physical punishment when your child makes mistakes. Use verbal reprimands instead, but make sure you don’t yell at or embarrass him, especially in public.
6. Train your mind. Instead of physically punishing your child, it would be better to train his mental faculties and condition him to the idea of using the potty. You can easily do this with subliminal messages, which target the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind is the part of the mind that controls people’s actions, behaviors, and habits. So by instilling good potty training ideals into your child’s subconscious, you can bypass conscious resistance to potty training.