For men, penetrative sex is more rewarding than masturbation alone. So it’s hard for men to accept that a receptive woman’s experience is the reverse. Men assume that the act of penetration is fundamental to sexual arousal. They don’t realize that intercourse is only exciting from the male perspective. Intercourse is a mating act that has a social context for a woman. It is not an erotic act. There is no taboo, suspense or sexual tension.

Men’s drive to penetrate inherently involves another person. But women don’t have this hormonal boost that men do. So, women haven’t developed the ability to get aroused by a man’s body because his orgasm doesn’t contribute to the reproductive process. There is no reason why a female orgasm should occur during sexual activity with a lover. The circumstances in which women have an orgasm are much more limited than those for men. But women are more self-sufficient than men because they don’t need a lover.

Women are used to engaging in sexual activities with a lover without experiencing an orgasm. It just isn’t possible. A woman doesn’t even get turned on by a lover. But equally a woman does not experience arousal even when she is alone as a man does. A man’s arousal is very evident by his erection. But also his mind is very focused on eroticism. He can orgasm quite easily just by applying the correct manual stimulation. When women arouse themselves without mental arousal, they also never achieve arousal or orgasm. Men may think this behavior is very strange. But, in fact, men do exactly the same thing. Men randomly stimulate a female lover and then assume she had an orgasm. Women are doing the same.

A woman must be single to discover orgasm. As long as she is a virgin, a woman can imagine what she could enjoy with a lover. Once a woman is in a relationship with a man, she masters her need for intercourse. This is how Nature intended it to be. The female orgasm is simply a private pleasure for a woman to enjoy alone. Sexual activity is meant to focus on the male orgasm.

Due to the male experience, it is incorrectly assumed that women should have an orgasm more easily with a lover than when they are alone. Masturbation gives women the opportunity to enjoy arousal and orgasm without the life-threatening risks of sexual intercourse (pregnancy and childbirth).

Heterosexuals had never heard of the clitoris until Kinsey and Hite published it. But his work was rejected by society. Even today, the clitoris is associated with lesbian sex. We can conclude that clitoral stimulation does not cause female orgasm with a lover. Presumably, women do not masturbate either during sex or alone. Otherwise, women would tell men how they achieve arousal and orgasm. Unless that is the case, we are suggesting that women are too shy to discuss such things with a lover.

When a man crouches between the legs, there is something to hold on to. When a woman does the same there is nothing. Well, maybe a problem. That’s all she has to work with. It’s amazing that she manages to do anything.

A woman cannot get the stimulation she needs for orgasm except by lying on her front and pushing down on her vulva, simultaneously squeezing her buttocks. This is impossible to achieve by engaging in any form of sexual activity with a lover. More importantly, a woman is not aroused with a lover and is unable to gain the mental focus on fantasy required for orgasm.

A woman does not have an orgasm spontaneously. A woman is never as intensely aroused as men usually are. The use of fantasy is vital to generating psychological arousal. Orgasm is achieved by consciously focusing on an erotic fantasy. Instead of being fully conscious, a woman is almost in a semi-conscious dream state. If she is interrupted, then she misses out on having an orgasm. If a woman can’t come up with a suitable fantasy, she can stimulate her clitoris as much as she wants but absolutely nothing will happen.

The social nature of sexual activity with a lover prevents a woman from generating her own arousal. A woman needs to be alone, in an environment without distractions. Women’s use of fantasy is like meditation, and a complete mental block is incompatible with lovemaking. Women’s use of fantasy does not work with a lover, so they cannot orgasm with a lover, regardless of who provides the stimulation. That is why a woman has no incentive to stimulate herself with a lover. To reach orgasm, a woman needs to concentrate and focus on eroticism much more than a man does. Men are aroused much more easily and naturally, especially with a lover.

A woman cannot be stimulated to orgasm with a lover due to the inability to become aroused when someone else is present. This is how the sexual psychology of women works. Women’s fantasies involve fictional men. As soon as a woman imagines a man she knows, the reality of how she sees him as a social (rather than erotic) person takes over. The sexual psychology of women does not involve visualizing everyday opportunities for intercourse. A woman’s erotic fantasies involve psychologically putting herself in the position of the male penetrator, which is incompatible with the reality of sexual situations in which she is the recipient of intercourse.

Another major reason women fake their orgasm is fear of upsetting their partner. Many men anxiously insist that the woman must have satisfaction. (Rachel Swift 1993)